Today I am going to share with you the what I consider to be the most valuable life lesson that I have learnt.
A lesson that although tough at the time it has been the thing that has kept me going through some of the toughest times of my life, including overcoming chronic fatigue.
This lesson was taught to me by my Uncle when I was only seven, I don’t know if he even knew at the time how important the lesson was, or the importance of the psychology behind it.
I must ask him one day.
When I was only seven we moved from our home in Central Queensland to a horse spelling property that my Uncle owned just outside of Brisbane, so that my Mum could look after my Grandad who was dying of cancer.
As it was a horse spelling stud we always had a number of horses there that need to be exercised, so I was quickly thrown on a horse and taught to ride.
All was fine and I was having a ball until the inevitable First Fall.
This is where the lesson came into play, after I fell I dusted myself off and remembered thinking, well that is enough of that for a while, I had no intention what so ever of getting back on to the evil horse that I had just taken a fall off of.
But my Uncle had other ideas, as I decided to head back to the farm house my Uncle called out where are you going? back to the house I said.
No your not you have to get straight back on he said, there is no way in hell am I getting back on or words to that effect I yelled back.
You have too he replied or it will only be a lot harder to get back on next time, what was he talking about??
How on earth could it be any harder to get back on next time than it was right now??
For some reason I didn’t argue any further (Very unusual for me BTW) I guess sub consciously I must have known he was right. Any way I got back on and within five minutes was pushing the boundaries riding like I had never fallen off and never would again.
There where more falls to come over the following year that we lived on the farm including one onto a barbed wire fence (I still have the scars to prove it) but I always got straight back on, and quickly got on with enjoying my riding.
The reason why this lesson was so important I have now come to realize, is that you have to get straight back on no matter what sort of horse it is that you fall off of.
The longer you take to get back on the more time your brain has to dramatize the situation and make it seem far worse than it actually was. By jumping straight back on you realize hey I fell off but that wasn’t so bad I survived and I am ready to try again.
You don’t lose that critical momentum and confidence that you had built before the fall.
Please share your story in the comments below about how you got straight back on the horse and how you benefited from it, so that others can benefit as well.
So go out there and make a difference.
If a boilermaker from the Sunshine Coast can do it so can you!!
Cheers Adam Bean
The Sunshine Coast Social Entrepreneur